This means I "read" DD's not looking at me as not paying attention. I have learned that it does not have to mean that, but it's an example of a disconnect we face as child and parent. Parenting is tough sometimes!
She needs to know how this appears to others-- even if SHE can listen just fine without looking, others will feel slighted or annoyed, and that's why this is worth addressing.
I'd start by watching TV or movies with her and occasionally calling her attention to gaze, especially how people look when they're listening attentively, listening disrespectfully, or not listening.
