Originally Posted by polarbear
Originally Posted by master of none
It's not just about seeing what you have in front of you from your own perspective, it's seeing objective testing and putting that in the mix as you puzzle through parenting. So, no, it won't change who your child is, but it might help you see who your child is in a more clear way.

I don't disagree with this at all, but it appeared that part of the reason the OP was considering testing was to *not* push for more challenge etc if the IQ # came in lower than whatever magical # is going to be considered "gifted" vs "bright child".. and yet the OP has a child who is achieving at a very high level. I would push for more challenge a high-achieving child no matter what the IQ score came in at.

To the OP, I apologize if I misunderstood your full intent in testing. I simply have seen in real life that children who are highly motivated and high achievers aren't always necessarily the highest-IQ kids, so my perspective was more cautionary in terms of what if the IQ # doesn't come out exceptionally high. You will still have a high-achieving child who will undoubtedly benefit from your advocacy and more challenge. And if $ are an issue, we have truly found that achievement testing almost always carries more weight (where we are, in our experience) when advocating for more challenge at school.

polarbear

No need to apologize, I actually appreciate you advocating for my DD wink Seriously, nice to see someone cares about her other then me.

Please know that I will continue to advocate for her if she does not test as gifted. I just need to *know* how best to help her myself by figuring out what I am actually dealing with. I am tired of guessing and being talked down to by teachers and administrators. I have no "leg" to stand on right now. I am certain that even if she does not test gifted she will be higher intelligence then normal and I feel that even having that evidence will help me push for her further.

She is in good hands and I will be taking care of all of her academic needs accordingly. I just need to find out for certain what I am working with so I can lay out my options and proceed from there.

Flailing around like I am currently doing is not working very well for me.