As for getting advice from anonymous strangers on the Internet...thankfully there aren't many trolls haunting websites dedicated to gifted education! But if there were, I suspect we'd figure them out immediately and know to ignore them. The GT lingo is just too specific. The only people who are going to use it are people who are living it. It's pretty much self-selecting. (Plus we're not talking about anything salacious, so no one is likely to stumble upon us when they're googling p0rn and decide to yank our chains...)
And I'm so glad for all of you reference points! Just knowing I'm not alone with all of this helps me to keep the bears in the alley at bay. To find gracious people so happy to share their wisdom and experience is wonderful.
