My DD11 won't go to counseling either - she would only talk to me. I ended up seeing the psychologist myself to get advice on what to say - I make a terrible psychologist, but with some coaching I think I am able to be somewhat helpful. Still - not the same as seeing someone experienced in CBT. :-(

Best wishes with the homeschooling - it must be hard work - I'm sure you'll both get the hang of it!