Yeah, I think the goal should be to teach him some of the organizational skills that he's lacking, not just accommodate, and you can't do that if you're not even at the school. I would push for IEP, but of course, if you are dealing with incompetent people or the case manager would be incompetent (who knows), it's pointless. Given what you've said about how idiotic the school has been about evaluating him, I'm not expecting much.
To me, these folks don't sound incompetent-- they sound ill-informed about the special educational needs of twice-exceptional students.
I think taking a breath to regroup is a good idea. Spaghetti's advice is also very sound.
