I can't remember if I had asked this before, but do you have a special ed lawyer? We have been bringing ours to all of the meetings and it can be very helpful. If nothing else, the administrators know you're serious and they won't try to pull the wool over your eyes.
I'm considering this as an option at this point. DS' new psychologist stated "I often tell parents you will win over teachers better with cupcakes than lawyer...but sometimes you need both."
I can't even imagine going that route. If there were a better option for DS, placement-wise, we'd take it. But there isn't, at least not yet.
There is a local sped lawyer and I may consult. This whole thing is so upsetting.
