We have definitely seen that there is a lack of adults who understand or want to work with highly gifted children.
One woman teacher of gifted in our town even felt comfortable enough saying in a public, recorded meeting in front of the school board that she enjoyed her time with the children at the other end of the IQ spectrum more.
I have done an unofficial survey; the mother usually handles, monitors supervises everything. Then, the moms of the other children will label us 'helicopter' parents. We invite them to read, even briefly about families with highly gifted kids, so that there might be increased understanding.
We have found that the adults do not want to be bothered with the very intelligent children. That is as far as we have gotten. To say more, can be perceived as negative and we are really trying hard to understand and appreciate and be grateful, even though we can envision a much better system, with teachers who really have a passion for teaching. When you find a truly gifted teacher, I would imagine they would love being around the truly gifted kids.
So, to an extent, we had to skip all of the usual activities that are really geared for the norm, and customize our child's activities to suit our child. It is a lot of work and you will feel as though you are working on at least one Ph.D.
