I fall somewhere in the middle. I will rescue food forgetting for my one son because he has limited food that he will eat and if he misses a meal it affects his ability to function.
School work if I can help I will because I would hope someone would for me if I forgot something important. But usually that is once or twice a year. I just fetched a pair of glasses for the 8 year old...he can't see...not going to let him suffer the natural consequences.
BUT I also teach my kids to do a verbal checklist each time we leave the house and am teaching them other organizational skills. So proactive, not punishing. And if it is a daily thing then no, I wouldn't but random oops I do help if I can.
