Okay. I understand now.
I would NOT call them. I would write them a letter. But I'm not sure when I'd do it.
The thing is that the woman who called has put everyone into a very difficult situation. Maybe she was calling because they want to accept your DD and she was trying to find ways to accommodate her...but she should have avoided those questions until after the acceptance letter had been sent. D-oh!
If they reject your DD, it is reasonable to suspect that the rejection may be related to the disability. I would definitely write a pointed letter describing this woman's questions and her notes at that point.
Two possibilities:
1. Call a lawyer and ask for advice. You can usually get a free 30-minute consult. I'm not suggesting this because I think you should threaten to sue them. It's merely an exercise at gathering information.
2. Call them and ask. Be anonymous if you want. Be sure you talk to someone high up in their hierarchy.
