One trade, though, is that my DD appears (on paper, at least and increasingly in person) to be a fairly typical, high-achieving MG/HG junior in HS. She does not necessarily 'appear' to be what she actually IS; a PG kid doing amazing quality work four to six years beyond what her age would predict even for most GT kids, and struggling mightily with ongoing asynchrony. One additional reason for this is that it is still the case that the work is simply not "appropriate" in terms of pacing and depth, though it's quite high in terms of output demands (busywork, mostly). She probably won't get a perfect 2400 on her SAT's this spring, and probably narrowly missed NMSF levels in our state-- meh. That's a trade-off. She's in the 95th-99th percentile pretty regularly, not the 99.99th because of the acceleration, but on the other hand, without it, she'd be so shut down...
This is exactly where we are with dd as well. She appears to be a gifted 10th grader but is generally 18 - 24 months younger than her grade peers now and still has some significant asynchrony that is hard to get schools to see when they forget that she is younger and still rather different than similarly performing kids in her grade who are considerably older. Kind of like the Columbus Group definition of giftedness that notes how the asynchrony increases with increasing levels of giftedness - were she really a MG+ 15 or 16 y/o rather than a HG 14 y/o she probably would have different needs and less need for ongoing individualization.
