Originally Posted by eldertree
I think I might approach it as a self-determination goal: "My hope for this class is that Debbie will learn to set appropriate standards for herself, and to develop healthy ways to meet her own standards and goals." IIRC, your dd is in high school (correct me if I'm wrong?)-- by this age, especially with the bright kids, they're usually all about getting ready for college. Self-determination should be Goal One in that case.

Yes, without self-determination, you kind of wander around life feeling completely lost and confused.

At least that was my college experience, since I was waiting for structure and instructions.

Why am I here, I wondered.

I never was able to answer that question.