we've had mixed reactions from both sides. It was my mom who pointed out DS4's - then under 2 - giftedness.
my younger brother was thrilled, my sister is supportive and tries to understand.
My older brother and his wife, DH's older brother and his wife are disbelieving - I'm apparently very pushy.
DH's sister is oblivious and still buys "age appropriate gifts" that are so not appropriate for my boys.
Dh's parents just say that DS4 is "a bit smart", but that we over structure his time and overschedule his life. and that DS2 is too little for us to tell.
Thing is - DS4 is literally able to do things at the same level, and above in some instances as his cousin who is 7. So how they can't see it I still don't quite get.
WRT your father - maybe they just need to spend time together alone.. would that be an option? they may find each other that way, it's working with my FIL and my boys - they are building great relationships and he is finally understanding exactly how advanced they really are.
