Every situation is so unique. I have seen some kids in more rural areas actually do better with navigating school systems because they are seen as such outliers that the school doesn't have as much fear about setting precedent by accommodating them.
So true, this is our situation...although we are not in a rural area but a suburban district that is a smaller district and doesn't have any gifted programming. They are doing an individual program for my DS6 just because of how far from the norm he is. They aren't really worried about setting precedent as they aren't going to see other kids like this around and they know that. So far so good..but when DS was 4 we were told by the psychologist that public school most likely would not work out and that we would have to find a school for highly gifted children or homeschool. So you just never know, every kid is different.
