As Dh says, She thrives on learning, if shes not she is miserable. That is just her.
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I am so confused.
Wow Amazed!
You have a really strong advocate in this fellow. Which is great. It looks like you are going to have to 'agree to disagree' about the 'keeping her off the academic learning' - offer to send her to his home for the weekend and see if he can pull it off! I've had the same thing told to me by well meaning folks, and sadly - it just inverts the reality of the situation. My son isn't advanced because of how I treat him, I treat him how I treat him because he's asynchronous. Truth. Reality.
Now, when we had a choice between sending him to a Math Enrichment class and a French Enrichment class, we choose French, following this well meaning advice, and it did no harm. But there is a huge difference between 'keep your eyes open for non-academic things to learn and take advantage of them when you can' to 'don't answer her questions.' She's 3 years old. Of course you will.
((OT, but I did used to use 'answering questions' as a positive reinforcer, because it was the strongest one available. "Get in the carseat and seat belts buckled and I'll tell you all about child labor laws.")) We are parents and we are just trying to survive. Your fellow sounds very experienced, but until one lives with a kid like this, there are certain ideas that sound more appealing than they are. You are the expert.
The second sanity saver I can recommend is to train yourself not to think about the future. Society will change in ways one can't imagine 10 years in the future, and as you return to the mainland, and socialize with more PG families, more options and role models will appear. You could be living in Reno 10 years from now and your DD could be enjoying life at the Davidson Academy. Can you imagine how much of a difference Jan and Bob Davidson have made in all of our lives. Now go back in time to the year before they started DITD. Could anyone have predicted that they would have created what they did.
((I'm starting to sound like Asimov's Foundation Trilogy - they made a science of predicting the future, you may want to try it as a read aloud))
I have heard of several PGs who got their first college degree (or degree's worth of classes) ages 10-16, and then turned around and headed off to a 'sleep away college' to start there 2nd undergraduate degree at age 17.
Before I knew about PG, I thought that if my son had one good year in a placement, followed by 2 bad years, that I had picked the wrong placement. Now I know that if I can get the fit right for a full entire year, that is an amazing feat - I'm happy if it's a good fit for 6 months! So now I take my good year, and start planning for a new placement when I see that 'this isn't working anymore.' That's ok, it's just different.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
