Seablue, I think by "grow out of it" they mean "no longer be diagnosable because outside observers can't see symptoms clearly in the person's behavior." Or, learning to "pass."

What that doesn't account for is how hard it is to maintain from the inside... one autistic author (I forget the name) writes that she loves family and friends, but she is working at it every minute when she is with other people, including her husband and kids. It sounds taxing... hence my question to Artana.

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