I'm definitely in the second group, though I have learned not to blame myself these days. DC20's struggles to fit into the school system mirrored a lot of my own issues in school, as well as my own reading/discussions on HG+ kids, helped me see that I was not the "dumb kid" or the "bad kid." I am happy that DC20 is a resilient kid and has emerged from some unhappy times at school without internalizing it or dismissing school...