I get it. It's hard, it's a pain, but it is so worth it. We finally got a great placement for DS7, but it was a lot of work. It is still work due to his 2e-ness (1 1/2 hour meeting with 12 "experts" last week...another one today at 3pm) but it IS do-able.
We have had advocates come with us to meetings which is very helpful. That way you don't get overwhelmed or "bullied." The advocate can calmly state things that would bring tears to your eyes if you had to say it. The special ed advocate is also a gifted advocate since gifted falls in the same category in our school system. (They don't call it special ed, they call it exceptional student education). So maybe you can look in that department for an advocate for you and your child.
Nan
