on almost a daily bases she gets very angry with her Father and I but she refused to talk about it much and really keeps her emotions in sometimes its easy to get her out of this negative/angry state but sometimes when she actually listens/talks to me about it we end up talking for over an hour while i explain some what complex reasoning as to why things are the way they are...
EXAMPLE:: yesterday she wouldn't get out of the dining room while i was rearranging/cleaning i asked nicely she wouldn't listen so i got a bit more angry sounding then made her go sit on the living room couch (time out) and she got so upset she came back into the dinning room and angrily told me to "get out" over and over i asked her where she expected me to go and she just said "i dont care just get out" (she was very emotional) so i said fine and walked out of the front door and then came back in a minute later and she said "what do you want?? leave me alone"
i felt that i couldn't just let her hide alone and hurt with her unresolved feelings (she tries to hide and be alone to just cry when she is like that) so i tried to pick her up and hold her/comfort her on the couch she kicked and struggled so i let her go and started trying to talk/reason with her...
so i then explained why she has to listen to her parents and what have you she wouldn't listen till i explained age difference i showed her 5 fingers and said this is how old you are then i showed her how old i am and explained how much longer iv been alive and then i explained that her grandma knows even more then me and showed her how old grandma is (she finally started calming and listening) she expressed that she thought that growing up men getting your own way and doing whatever you want so then we had to talk about how no one always gets what they want (especially not adults) and we had to blend in safety and how we as parents only have her best interest at heart and that while she isn't old enough (and lacks the experience) to make certain decisions that there are many things she has grown old enough to do and then she proceeded to ask if she could use an butter knife to cut up her apple (shes never been allowed to do this before) and i told her yes i think you may have grown old enough to do that and i gave her a really dull butter knife and let her do it
and after all of this she was satisfied and understood
however sometimes i just feel frustrated like I'm her mother she should obey and i shouldn't have to give an hour long explanation to my 5yr old
she has expressed before that she gets thoughts in her head and she cant explain them or get them to go away and that that is way she wont talk to us about them....
Does anyone else have this problem??
