What I would appreciate as a parent, is for you to keep me informed of all his options and for you to say, "ANYTHING you need of me for recommendations or educational opportunities, let me know". Then back off a while. Keep in touch to let them know how he is doing and remind them ocassionaly that you are available to be a sounding board or for recommendations.

That's my opinion, and could be influenced by what I think is my GS9's counselor overstepping boundaries.