I am going to go a different way, and I hope I find support out there.
I didn't have denial, grief or sadness that DD is gifted. I wanted a gifted child. A child that I could provide the right education and habits -- so she wouldn't miss the opportunities that I did, because my parents took my success for granted. Expecting their gifted child to be fine.
There was fear, if she wasn't as gifted as I expected. (Being honest here, so be kind.) And because of that fear, I didn't give her as much credit as others. When another mother told me that I had a really amazing child, and "you know how amazing she is, right?" there was part of me that was afraid to go there, even though the early test scores confirmed her intelligence, but there was also more, in her talents that were above average, her humor.
I know that as a brilliant woman, there are less options for partners. That men will be drawn to her and be afraid, that she is more brilliant. But I am not sad for the path that she has to live because of brilliance. There isn't any grief for an ND child, since I am not an ND child. And I admit, that would be hard for me. That would produce sadness in me. Luckily I got the child I wanted.
Ren
