I've been a member on this site for a few months and lurked for quite a while prior to signing on. I've gotten lots of good ideas and advice. My questions have been answered and I really appreciate the support you all give.
But one thing comes up on here over and over again that really bothers me. There are an overwhelming number of comments made regarding denial, grief and sadness. The sort of thing that you'd expect to find on a support network for parents of children with cancer. I don't get it.
Maybe i'm out of line, but IMO there is nothing wrong with my son. No reason for grief or sadness. It's true that he's overwhelmingly challenging at times, he scares me as often as he amazes me, but if I had a magic wand I wouldn't use it to knock 30 points off of his IQ. If he was an Olympic class gymnast or a star football player, he would be celebrated by everyone, looked up to, a role model. So can someone please explain to me why there should be grief over the fact that my son is one in a million, or half a million or whatever?
I've heard the argument that his IQ will keep him from a "normal" childhood. Define normal. It's different for everyone. As long as he's happy and healthy, he's better off than many children in this world. As a foster parent, I know of what I speak. He has something that many children don't. He has parents that care, that are willing to do what it takes to keep him healthy and happy. That's why i'm on this board. That's why we're all on this board, because we are all dedicated to ensuring the best possible life for our children. What's sad about that?
I'm honestly not trying to cause controversy or upset anyone, I just can't fathom the reaction that these wonderfully, brilliant little people seem to cause.
