Hi! I am little late getting in on this one. I have a DS4 as well now, just turned 4 this summer. I read Losing our Minds by Ruf a few years ago (when he was 2) and found that according to her levels he would be a solid level 4, Everytime I go back and look he continues to be a 4 easily. I too got scared by all her comments about how he would never make it in certain settings and still fear that our school system will fail him miserably. And it may. He started a pre-k program that was mostly play based and ended up getting kicked out of it by the director after about 4 weeks (I won't go into all of it he did have some behaviors there, but nothing at all signficant enough for any child to get kicked out of a program...and the teacher informed me that she didn't want him out, but that the director decided it since she was going on maternity leave and couldn't handle the stress that may be caused). . Anyhow, we started him in a new program where he has been for 2 weeks and it is going great! The big difference is that the first place knew that he was bright...but still looked at him like the others and didn't feel like he needed much different than his peers since it was mostly a play-based program. They also had little structure and no classroom management system (no clear limits or expectations). This new place is catching on quick. By the third day my DS told me that the teacher brought in equations for them to do together and he was doing multiplication and division with her. This program is also significantly smaller and has a lot more one and one and has a classroom management system. He still doesn't relate with his peers much from what he tells me...but he seems to be enjoying it and is so proud of himself when he has a great day. They haven't seen any behavior problems with him, which is great. And his behavior at home has been back to normal since he started his new program...he was a little more off when he was in his last placement. We are nervous about K next year because I can't imagine them working individually with him like this. They will have 2-3x as many students and only one teacher. And I don't think HS is an option for us.

About not asking continuous questions, my DS asks similar questions that yours does. At 2 he would ask about water towers and how the water got into our house from the towers. Now he asks about how electricity works, and doorbells, and phones, he wonders about what would happen if leaves didn't fall off of trees, etc. I laughed about your autumn answer. My DS didn't like my answer about how doorbells work "you ring it and it goes ding-dong" I thought it was fairly simple, lol. He does like to read for pleasure, he is a great reader and often just sits silently and reads but we mostly read together. But somedays he only reads for like 20 minutes in a full day because he is a very active and busy kid. He tends to read more when it isn't nice outside. And he LOVES computers. That is what he is really into. He has no real obsessions of fascinations, and rarely has so I don't find that unusual. I don't find my DS all that motivated. Sometimes he wants to learn things..like his interest in Math. He is also interested in Spanish and sign language. He has known his alphabet in Spanish and in sign language for a couple years now...but now he is learning more sign language in pre-k and enjoys this. He enjoys knowing things that we don't know. And he is really into codes and word games. Anyhow, despite all of this and even though it is very clear that he is gifted...sometimes he doesn't get the simplest thing and I question his giftedness. I laugh about it because of how obvious it is...but I think every parent has denial at times.

Wow...sorry that was so incredibly long.