Mewzard: It doesn't really sound to me like the school is doing much for him. I think you have to either step up the advocacy and push (gently and politely, of course!) for more, or you need to try another educational option entirely. If he's moving toward depression, then I think this is a budding crisis (if not already a crisis), and you do have to act.
Some kids are very vocal and obvious that there's a poor school fit. My son was. But he's NOT an adapter in that regard. Adapters tend to turn their frustration inward, as your son is doing. Frankly, I think that's a lot worse because the squeaky wheel gets the grease, but an adapter gets ignored.
I would urge you to pick a course of action and hop on it. Quickly.
My $.02, worth less than half that...
