enjoyed kayaking... he made progress quite nicely with private skiing lessons... I wish he'd find "his" sport", it might work wonders for his confidence. I know it did for me!
What is your sport?
If he enjoyed kayaking, possibly a rowing machine may be of interest? Or other upper-body exercises?
If he enjoys skiing, possibly other lyrical lower-body movements such as a scooter, skateboard, skates, dancing or bicycling may be of interest?
Anyone can, at times, feel a mismatch between the self, and the body they were born into. One person may admire another's quick wit. Meanwhile that person may not know that they are being admired for taking time and providing a calm, thoughtful response. Someone may wish to be athletic, while someone else may wish for a higher IQ. We all have difficulties we must learn to deal with, and fortunately the world needs all kinds of talents, skills, and abilities.
he yelled at me to apologize for embarrassing him and threatened to jump out of the window otherwise
Some may deconstruct this:
1- he yelled.
Not OK2- for embarrassing him.
(In front of whom? Most likely not embarrassing him, if it was not in front of an audience, but rather he possibly felt guilty. Possibly he also felt not very clever as he was caught when he had hoped he had outsmarted you.) He may benefit from developing an enhanced vocabulary for feeling bad, and properly attributing the source of those feelings.3- threatened.
Possibly to make you feel bad, because he felt bad. Misery loves company. It is good you sought professional help, and I hope someone can see him soon. In the meanwhile can you keep him in eyesight, keep the home very calm/consistent/stable, explain every rule? Make sure he knows the rules and your actions are all to help him. Are you able to document situations in a journal at home, or might this trigger a strong negative response from him? Is he at all interested in journaling about his experiences, writing or drawing pictures or cartoons to express himself?
We are NOT In the US, so list like hoagies are not of use for us.
Hoagies list of
Psychologists familiar with the gifted includes parent-recommended psychologists not only in the US, but also Australia, Canada, England, Netherlands. If the person you've been referred to is not on the list and you find them to be knowledgeable about gifted and helpful to your son and your family, possibly you'd contact Hoagies with your recommendation, helping build the network and assisting future families?
