He does not want to be here. He has so many problems he does not want to live. When I called him out about lying to us about his computer and internet use (there are rules and safeguards, but he tries to work around them) he yelled at me to apologize for embarrassing him and threatened to jump out of the window otherwise. He hates being good at math and LA and bad at sports, insisting no one is ever embarrassed or has to suffer mean remarks for being bad at math, but he is embarrassed about being so poor at sports and is convinced everyone thinks less of him for being so.
Problem is, he is actually an awfully poor athlete. No coordination, low muscle tone, hypermobility, physically fearful, hates competition, vestibular and proprioceptive issues, absolutely useless at anything involving a ball. He is stalling in martial arts, enjoyed kayaking, but may not be able to get any where for hating to put his head under water. I had to pull him out of we swimming for that - his swimming actually got poorer the longer he was in that particular class that placed such an emphasis on it, as they should, frankly. Once he got over his fears, he made progress quite nicely with private skiing lessons and did well in an age appropriate class after, but of course it's useless as year round exercise. I am ready to pay for private lessons where possible but in clubs and teams, he is at an age where coaches aware losing patience with kids who are not only abysmal but show that they actually hate it, too. So, it is hard to be encouraging but truthful - I tell him that athletics simply isn't the thing for people born into our family, that his parents were just as poor, that we grew up and enjoyed our talents we do have regardless, but he is not currently receptive. Please believe me, I have NO personal ambition invested in this and do not think he thinks I do so, I couldn't care less about athletic success, but I wish he'd find "his" sport", it might work wonders for his confidence. I know it did for me! And he does need to get out and about for his health and sensory diet but I am at my wits end with this.
My shrink, whom I mentioned the suicidal ideation to, not sure how seriously to take it, has referred me to a child psychiatrist she insist knows his stuff. We were away, so can call only tomorrow. I'm full of doubt anyone can help with this combination of asynchrony (his FSIQ came in at 154). We are NOT In the US, so list like hoagies are not of use for us.
Or maybe we should have done the grade skip into fifth grade in the gifted middle school program. But he's not ready for middle school.
Not sure what I'm even asking for here. Sympathy, I guess, and if anyone's got ideas for how to go forward from here, I'm all ears!
Last edited by Tigerle; 08/10/15 02:47 PM.
