ABQ,
I'm so sorry you've been treated this way. I hope the HS is better.

This is your youngest kid and you'll never need this middle school again, right?

I do think these inappropriate comments should be reported up the chain of command-- not to get anyone into trouble, but as information. Your district is undoubtedly aware that discriminatory treatment of people with disabilities is against the law. These comments and the failure to give the accommodations are legally actionable; if they have any clue at all at the district level they will want to ensure that this stops.