Originally Posted by ultramarina
DS5 has not had a coach and it's been driving the coaches at chess club berserk. He is now being given free private lessons (which is a matter of mild concern for DH and me, in that I am not sure if we should worry that we are not paying for this and other families are).
It is common at adult tournaments (in which players keep score) to have a "post-mortem" where the game is analyzed. When I was a kid playing in adult tournaments I learned from many such post-mortems, in which a helpful master often participated. Chess players have different styles and develop different views about the game. Learning to separate the wheat from the chaff in the advice one is given is a useful skill to develop.