They don't just blame the rest of the team?
We picked the club where the coaches consistently emphasize that the game is a team effort. Everyone wins and loses together. The coaching is positive and supportive, and they don't tolerate the girls blaming each other for losing (goalies especially).
DD also got herself into a situation where she wasn't the best on the team, and where she could finally see herself improving through hard work. We also ended up with the unexpected benefit of finally learning how to follow oral directions. They run sprints and did pushups when any one on the team fails to follow directions. This quickly translated to school.
