Originally Posted by eema
Originally Posted by Val
Okay. How long is the Shabbat ritual on Fridays? I attended one once, and it lasted for 20 minutes or more. I remember ritual handwashing (each person), blessing the candles, and a blessing with bread, and maybe more? There were some long prayers. Not sure. Either way, it was long.


The ritual for us is about 5 minutes at the beginning and 5 minutes at the end. We actually are not all that religious, or it would be longer.

I agree that we need to find some way to explore this. I usually find that the best way to have a conversation with him is at a restaurant over dessert.

Maybe I'm reading into the tea leaves too closely, but I get the sense your son is trying to flesh out your beliefs. You mention that you retain Shabbat traditions more for the cultural significance. Maybe this needs to be the basis for a frank discussion of what constitutes belief vs. Jewish identity, with an explanation of the importance of the latter to you.

I think Val hits on a nice point with her suggestion to understand your son's feelings around school and ritual. Enjoy your dessert! smile

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