I reread and no it didn't sorry about that. I have been where your daughter is except I tolerated the crap - it didn't occur to me it shouldn't be that way.

One thing i have worked out recently (it took me a long time) is that what offends me is different than what offends nearly everybody else. I can be dreadfully upset when the personally genuinely didn't mean anything (as in ignorance rather than malice) but also upset people because i commented on the elephant standing in the middle of the room.

I do think with parties it is mean to leave a few people out which is why i prefer to invite mostly non school people and relatives and i would not let my son leave people out like that. I think it is better to invite 2 out of 24 than 20 out of 24.

It also may be that the other kids your daughters age aren't what she needs as friends. If she is happy to wait for the right person maybe just give her lots of opportunities to meet new people.

I didn't mean to offend as such just to point out that sometimes you can explain to someone what it is they do that upsets you and solve the problem. Now if i could only follow my own advice better because i tend to just walk away and it really doesn't work well.

My mantra for the year is "most offence is caused by ignorance or carelessness not malice"






Last edited by puffin; 08/20/13 08:44 PM.