Good, then I'm going back to the pieces of eight because it was working well for us and we all three thought it was fair. The only time he had to earn his coins was if he didn't rein in a spiral, then it was community service to get it back over five. I just gave him his coins back every day, he didn't have to earn them unless he spiraled.
Re: the wiki link... Lmao @ brainwashing the kids into thinking they're awesome. Easy enough because I reallly think they are. Also, what I read in "Playful Parenting" is to make your eyes really big sometimes when you're looking at them. I don't like the way that makes my face look. I've seen it on a few other women. But it fit in with the TNH spiel of "show them you're paying attention when they're not doing anything terrible or extraordinary". Those big eye stares do seem to make a difference my kids feel. They are really young. The boy still always likes to literally say "looook AT Meeee!". (eating a bite of food?! wow).
I mentioned once I feel guilty that Espy never got my undivided attention like Wyatt did, and Wyatt had to share it after Espy came. My grandmother said the only way I could give my kids more attention is if I became their Siamese twin and she renamed my daughter Vel, which is short for Velcro because she was always stuck to my hip. It was in some parenting books, if you give them enough security when they're little they'll be brave enough to venture out and explore when they're older.
Luconu, your phrasing almost made me think of a code word for TNH discipline. I keep hearing "con animo" to mean with more enthusiasm I think the new code word in my house is "sin animo".
