btw, I will add that my overwhelming sense about my DD had always been that if she can get through the teen years relatively unscathed, she is going to be a fantastic, fascinating young adult. DH feels the same way. In fact, this feeling is really, really strong. I have a very clear picture of her--passionate, artsy, quirky, with a circle of unusual friends--but I also have a picture of how things could go sideways, which I generally try not to look at too often.