I had a pregnancy scare today, so I've been thinking a lot about this.


With intense babies that don't sleep and seem to need a lot of stimulation... what is ideal child spacing? People keep telling me my second one will be easy because DD is not, but I know it could go either way.

Here is what I've been thinking.

1.) I should just accept being a mommy, accept I get no free time and my house is a mess and make sure DD has all she needs from me and gets to BF until at least age 2 like I want her to. And I should accept I will be raising babies for 4-6 years continually.

2.)Admit that my pregnancy, delivery and recovery were very hard. The first few months were extremely hard, and my idealistic visions of lying in bed with newborn #2 while DD plays happily in the playroom with her father are total bunk. It is going to be hard and I will just need to get through it. This is a reason for me to "get it over with" so I can heal again and get to the business of raising my children (and get healthy /in shape again, find a routine, etc.)

3.)I love writing. I love working on my sites. I see that this is going be a constant source of frustration for me until all my babies are somewhat independent. I can just give it all up and be a dedicated mommy and do only that, but the writing has kept me sane. You guys have seen my posts before, so you know I am feeling a little in-sane.

I know we want 2 kids. DH wants 3 kids. I love this time with DD but I look forward to getting through all the physical pain of pregnancy and recovery so I can put that part behind me...

So.. Perspectives? A lot of you are past the toddler stage, so you can probably look back on it with more wisdom that I can muster.

Oh and.. Edit: DD is 9 months, but acts like she is 12-18 months in just about every way. I feel that I have a toddler and she acts like one. I don't feel like I can make predictions about what DD will be like when she is, say, 2 years old, because her milestones have been 30-50% ahead on everything. How do I know she won't be acting more like a 3 year old? Or maybe she'll be exactly like you would expect a 2 year old to be, so I can expect that.

Last edited by islandofapples; 09/08/11 09:21 PM.