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If only there were one "ideal" spacing for children. I think its great to ask the question and ponder the responses, but in the end we all have to choose what is "best" for ourselves and our families. I have two children thirteen years apart. My husband and I were in our twentites when we had our daughter and simply felt too overwhelmed by budding careers, grad school and limited finances to have a second child. We loved our one child family and were happy as a family of three, in spite of the MANY people (friends, family and strangers) who somehow felt the need to express concerns that we "couldn't" have just one child! Then, in our late thirties, life felt a little more settled and we (bumped our heads!) and decided to try for a second child. Of course at that point people (friends, family and strangers) felt the need to say we "couldn't" have two children thirteen years apart! Well, we did and now have a wonderful family of four...a twenty-two year old daughter who is headed for graduate studies at Oxford next month and an amazing eight year old son who entertains us with his enthusiasm and innocence every day. Life is good and for us, thirteen years spacing between children is "ideal!" All the best to you on your journey towards finding the "ideal" for you and your family!