Heaps of empathy from this corner. I was smiling and nodding whilst reading. My dd is eight and we have the shouting and stubbornness interspersed with heaps of tears due to anxiety and frustration.
If she's stimulated and learning then she's happy, if not, god help us all! We're seeing a gifted specialist (only just started) if you want you can inbox me and I'll let you know if we find any effective ways of disciplining! All I know is that softly, softly seems to work better than shouting - as much as not shouting is so very difficult sometimes!
Hang in there. I know it's hard...
K x
