We looked at just about every preschool in our area.
The so-called "best" really sucked at dealing with advanced kids. They had rigid programs and a hard process that excelled with normal kids. But Mr W would have died there. Our tours of the rooms showed Mr W belonged with their 4 year olds and their directors had no clue about how to deal with advanced kids. So, listen to your gut on this.
We picked the most flexible place we could find that had a large mix of programs. We got a commitment (after letting her notice MR W's advancement) from the director to place Mr W where he fit in (once he was potty trained.) The place is fairly new and in the bottom third as far as cost. I think you often have to rock-soup your way to the end state rather than try to get there right away. Flexibility was the key ingredient for us.
I do think Mr W would be more advanced had he stayed at home with a sitter. (Both of us work.) But he was learning to manipulate her and us. We agonized over this, but decided that in the long run, Mr W would benefit from not being the center of attention every day.
There are pros and cons to every alternative. If you can be a SAHM, then enjoy it while it lasts!
Last edited by Austin; 09/01/10 11:25 AM.
