Praise him every time he doesn't resist the slightest thing, even if you have to take him to the slide at the playground, wait until he's pushed himself off the top, and say: "Slide Down Now!" - then at the bottom you can praise him for being so obedient and doing exactly what Mommy wanted!
LOL That might be what it takes!!! I do try to dump praise on him every time he doesn't say no. Those moments are just so few and far between. I also make sure I tell him how cute he is and how much I love him, even when it is hard to work with him.
I really appreciate all that you wrote. I've been meaning to find some time to look into that approach that you've talked about so much. Maybe this is the kick in the butt I need.
