Eco, I think what you need to look for is a school program that understands 2e students. We are starting DD in middle school next year (yikes) and I talked to the gifted specialist. DD would have a "gifted case manager" which was startling to me considering the fact that we are coming from a district that doesn't even have a district wide gifted coordinator. I'd greatly prefer a good "special ed case manager" but any 1-1 attention she can get, the better. I told the gifted specialist about her various 2e issues and none of it seemed to bother her. She said that the gifted courses are not more work, just deeper level material. That's what your DS needs. We'll see what the program is like when we actually get there and teachers can't bother to follow the IEP, though. It's easy for people to say everything will be great, but then they forget about her planner every day, or don't check their emails.