"In summary, am I asking for too much? Is the law on my side?"

Yes, you are asking too much.. but I understand why. I have a Aspie diagnosed prior to age 3. Not so sure the law is on your side. I know my childs school district can and does take parents to court for Due Process in regards to LRE placements. If they are sure the placement is truly in the best interest of the student and can back up why the LRE is self contained classroom and not full inclusion the law is on their side.
I really like DEE DEEs post to you. She touches on so many issue you need to consider.

You mentioned the DSM and ADHD with ASD. The new DSM 5 does allow for ADHD to be diagnosed along with ASD.

Your son, from reading this thread along with previous threads does seem to have many ASD traits. Some not very mild at all. Many of them will not help him adjust well in K. I do not think he will have luck with a 1 on 1 aide unless they are a BCBA with a lot of experience.
Have you tried ABA/Verbal behavior at all over the years since diagnosed ASD?

Last edited by maisey; 07/24/15 08:12 PM.