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He asked for TV, and we refused as he took too long a time to get washed (for everything we ask, he skips and starts playing or watching books).
Some may say it is wise to be specific in managing expectations. For example, a parent might say: " You may have TV if you get washed and come straight here, without playing or looking at books. But if you choose not to get washed and come straight here, you may not have TV. The choice is yours." This sets clear expectations and the child will know you can be trusted to follow through. From reading the post, the child may have the perception that parents agreed to TV and then changed their minds arbitrarily, leaving the child feeling disempowered. The child would not understand the role of their own choices as leading to the consequences.
Well, hard to say everything in a post. Indeed, since last summer, we put in ths children room and in the kitchen a time schedule. The kids therefore know at which time the lunch is and that if they are ready before that time they can have access to TV. We also recall them that time is running. So DS is perfectly aware of what is going on. This absolutly do not prevent him from playing or whatever is willing to except washing. By the way, washing is also on the time schedule ...
