How are his social skills when interacting in the small groups he prefers with age peers? When with adults? Older children?
My soon-to-be-3 son is similarly disenchanted by the chaotic ways of his age peers. Usually, within a few minutes of his attempting to engage them, they cross some physical boundary and then don't respect DS' requests for them to stop. Add to that a lack of common interests and DS has little use for most age-peers, with the exception of his best friend, an empathetic little boy who I strongly suspect is gifted
When we go to the park, my little extrovert will rally a bunch of 5 or 6 year olds and lead them in a game of his choosing. He's persuasive and I love that his experience building relationships with adults has given him the confidence to lead children twice his age. He's learned healthy social dynamics from adults and has a good sense of boundaries and reciprocity, in direct contrast to children who are not around adults all the time.
I have no problem with this social "isolation".
