I have to remind myself sometimes to not downplay DS's abilities. It is hard, sometimes, because it seems to me that the other parents just feel so bad that their kid is not doing whatever. But then I remind myself of the whole sports analogy, and think, "well, i don't feel awful that my son can't ride a tricycle yet, or throws a ball kinda funny." So, I think it's my little public service to not downplay my smart kid. Hopefully someday, our smart kids will be just as accepted and applauded as the star athletes.
Oh, and also, my kid seems to overhear everything I say, even if he appears to be completely involved in something else. So, I wouldn't want him to get a complex due to mom's saying something negative.
