I work at a large state flagship. If either of my kids goes to college here and joins a frat/sorority, it will be over my dead body, or at least without my financial support. I can't think of a plus side to the Greek system.

My main reason for posting is that there may be alternatives to consider. Our campus also has an honors dorm and a women-in-STEM dorm, both of which seem to have a number of desirable qualities. I don't whether a "social membership" at these dorms is possible for students living off campus, but something like this might be worth looking into as an alternative to the Greeks.