Thank you all for your encouragement. I think I was a bit naive going into the meeting.

Gardengirl, he's in a pullout program every day for 45 minutes. However, one of the things his classroom teacher highlighted today was that he wasn't taking advantage of all the opportunities there either. He hadn't finished a dictionary assignment where they were asked to look up words and copy their definitions. Seriously? Could they really be asking them to copy definitions? In his gifted class??