Personally, if I was even considering spending $50k/year on a school, and having to move to go to it, I'd just do homeschooling and hire a few tutors and enroll her in some local educational programs. Of course, I live in a state with a MASSIVE amount of homeschooling going on, so there'd be a large amount of help/support/programs available.

It's something we considered before DS9 got into the charter school.

Also, I can't remember, school option #3 - is this where they also send the kids they label "ED"? If so, just go ahead and strike that off your list. It will be a terrible time for your daughter w/her anxiety.

~amy