Is there anyplace between to live, so that DH has an hour commute one way, and you and DD have it in the other direction? (Are there trains or buses? Gosh, I hope so.) Also not ideal, but keeps the family together more...
I totally get why homeschooling is not a good fit; you need specialized services for the LDs, for sure. Is there something that can be patched together, though? That is, you homeschool the parts you could do, but you have professional services for the LDs and/or trained college/grad students come to your home (at district's expense) to do the tutoring/schooling for the parts where she would need that? (It only occurs to me because that is one possible model for some autism schooling around here; it can work, though it puts a large burden on the parent to organize the enterprise.)
Thinking of you, knowing you will do the right thing because you are intrepid,
DeeDee
