Dude, I actually agree with you for the same reasons. I sent an email at the beginning of the year describing his quirks (will talk to you like a peer rather than authority figure but will willingly comply with your directions if they are clear to him), they have his IEP, and it is almost December - not two weeks in.

I contacted the special Ed chair and politely requested that she supply the band teacher with resources to help her understand children on the autism spectrum and those with specific traits like Aspergers so that she would be better equipped and more comfortable dealing with my son the next time the need arose. We'll see...

~Lisa
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