Pemb, it's good that you are looking at all options.
I do want to mention, without bursting any bubbles, that I went through a major escape-seeking phase with DS's education. I looked everywhere (at one point we were willing to move *anywhere* in principle) before realizing that the "right thing" did not already exist, and the problem had to be solved over time. And it was, eventually, not without difficulty.
How do your negotiations stand now? Your meeting went well, there is another one planned (when?)-- there is an ongoing attempt to make things work, right? I know you can't trust everyone involved, but are you planning to give them a chance to redeem themselves? Has the year started, and how is it going? Is your DD getting the services she needs, and those nice breaks you planned in?
DeeDee
