Following Happy Chef's tangent, Mk: if you get a diagnosis for the 4-year-old, or maybe even if you don't, you might consider having the 2-year-old evaluated as well. Not wanting other people within 10 feet is pretty extreme.

It sounds like you are working darned hard as a parent trying to keep things together for your kids, and if there's something diagnosable going on it is so much easier to know at age 2 than at age 5 or 7, because that way you can get more early intervention help that makes it easier over the long haul.

Hang in there.
DeeDee

ETA: passing along one of the nicest things someone said to me at a dark hour: "Therapy works." It's true.

Last edited by DeeDee; 09/04/12 05:34 AM.