Thank you Grinity and PTP for your thoughtful suggestions. I actually have read Friends Forever on your recommendation Grinity. And I thought that it was helping, and that my DD was ready for a group play (which I had avoided for 2 yrs!) and um, Disaster... Two girls from the group of 4 she is part of at school got dropped off 45 mins early (yes really) and came together and had already hit their groove in the car before arriving, the 4th girl was delivered an hour late and by then things were already bad.

She's 9, in yr 4, one of the youngest in her class, but most of them are younger siblings rather than the eldest, and we think she has undiagnosed ADHD, possibly even some ASD-ish-ness... Woohoo that psych appt is looming!